User blog comment:Bocaj910/An Announcement... That You Won't Believe... But.../@comment-1874924-20100402052412

We haven’t had much interaction, Bocaj, and I was barely aware of your alter ego, but I will say this: where you have been is less important than where you are going.

You came clean, which was the first step. If you have taken the second, by learning your lesson, and are ready to take the last, which is to not repeat the offense--which, I might add, the admins apparently didn’t consider banworthy--then all that remains is to “take your medicine” and move on.

Yes, there may be lasting damage to some of your relationships here, but I think you will find those to be a minority--and even with those, the wiki’s rules of civility will protect you from anything truly nasty. Yes, a reputation is easier to damage than to build, but what’s done is done; and if you behave respectably going forward, you will be respected.

I realize that kids your age tend to think that an incident like this will mark them for life, but the real world doesn’t work that way. Most people's memories are shorter than you know, so don’t let despair drive you to act rashly.

Remember that many of the people here were willing (and, for all I know, are still willing) to forgive QOS if she ever decides to clean up her act. It will be that much easier for you.