User blog comment:Mrdaimion/Rant: Why Nice Guys Finish Last/@comment-1874924-20120702034710

Here are some actual findings and theories from people who study such things:


 * 1) The reason (or a reason, at least) that men who are "too nice" tend to end up in the "friend zone" is because they don't understand attraction.
 * 2) Women aren't generally attracted to badness per se; they're attracted to power, be it physical or social. The flip side is that women tend (if only on an instinctual level) to view excessive niceness as a sign of weakness, and that's a major turnoff for them.
 * 3) One reason beautiful women are often attracted to "bad boys" is because the see such men as being able to take care of anyone who hassles them--and beautiful women do get hassled a lot.
 * 4) A major reason why the jerks seem to get all the girls is because the jerks are more aggressive about approaching girls in the first place. As the adage goes, "you can't win if you don't play". Compounding the problem is the number of women who still think it's wrong for them to make the first move.

Oh, and one other thing, MrD: your profanity adds nothing to your rant, not least because chronic overuse has pretty much drained the "f-bomb" of all its power. Profanity doesn't bother me (unless it's laid on so thick that it actually becomes distracting), but any point that can be made with profanity can be made just as well without it.